r/AITAH 13h ago

Advice Needed AITA for filing for divorce after discovering my husband's very conservative beliefs?

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I (26F) have been married to my husband (27M) for two years now. Our relationship has had its ups and downs, but recently I discovered something that has shaken me to my core.

I have always been open-minded and quite liberal in my beliefs; I volunteer at a shelter for people experiencing homelessness and work at a center specializing in youth mental health. My husband, on the other hand, portrayed himself as similarly minded when we first met. We fell in love, got married, and I have been the primary breadwinner while he pursued various career interests, none of which panned out so far, and he is currently unemployed.

The trouble started when I stumbled upon some online activity that revealed he holds very conservative views on social and political issues. These were views he never expressed before, and when I confronted him about it, he admitted that he had deliberately hidden them from me because he knew how important my progressive values were to me. I asked him about the "women belong in the home" posts he had made and asked him if he thought I would be better at home. He told me that yes he thought I should be a housewife.

This revelation has hit me hard. It's not just about the difference in beliefs itself, but the fact that he kept this fundamental aspect of himself hidden from me. I feel like I don't truly know him anymore, and I'm struggling to reconcile the person I thought I married with this new reality. Especially because his views in this case are unrealistic, especially due to him not even having a job.

I've always believed in open communication and honesty in a relationship, and now I feel betrayed. It's not just about politics; it's about trust and respect. I am the one supporting us financially, and while that doesn't bother me inherently, the fact that he misled me about something so significant does. I filed for divorce and gave him the papers today.

He pitched a fit and got really angry at me when I told him that I was leaving him. He flew off the handle when I mentioned I was glad the prenup kept our finances separate. He told me I can't leave him like this and that I was an ass and a bitch for dumping him like this. That I promised to be with him for richer or poorer and in good times and bad. I feel a bit guilty about leaving him in this way, though I can't be with a person who thinks the way he does about women.

AITA?


r/AMA 9h ago

I am a republican who will be voting for Biden this year. AMA

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Not responding to insults or pure hate comments.

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Im taking all the hits right now from Trump Supporters for you guys. Mannnn this country is fucked lmao. I wish yall the best.


r/hockey 2h ago

[PGT] Post Game Thread: Florida Panthers at Edmonton Oilers - 21 Jun 2024

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NHL.com Boxscore

Teams 1st 2nd 3rd Total
FLA 0 0 1 1
EDM 1 2 2 5
Team Shots Hits Blocks FOW% Giveaways Takeaways Power Play PIM
FLA 21 43 11 0.473684% 11 5 0/3 6
EDM 21 21 22 0.526316% 13 18 0/3 8
Period Time Team Strength Description
1st 07:27 EDM Even Warren Foegele (3) snap shot, assist(s): Leon Draisaitl (21), Brett Kulak (7)
2nd 00:46 EDM Even Adam Henrique (4) wrist shot, assist(s): Mattias Janmark (4), Mattias Ekholm (5)
2nd 18:20 EDM Even Zach Hyman (16) backhand shot, assist(s): Ryan Nugent-Hopkins (15)
3rd 01:28 FLA Even Aleksander Barkov (8) wrist shot, assist(s): Carter Verhaeghe (9), Dmitry Kulikov (1)
3rd 16:45 EDM Even Ryan McLeod (4) backhand shot, assist(s): Warren Foegele (5)
3rd 16:57 EDM Even Darnell Nurse (2) wrist shot, assist(s): Stuart Skinner (1)
Period Time Team Type Min Description
1st 08:17 EDM MIN 2 Mattias Janmark slashing against Oliver Ekman-Larsson
1st 15:23 FLA MIN 2 Eetu Luostarinen slashing against Dylan Holloway
2nd 03:05 EDM MIN 2 Mattias Janmark roughing against Matthew Tkachuk
2nd 03:05 FLA MIN 2 Matthew Tkachuk roughing against Mattias Janmark
2nd 10:57 EDM MIN 2 Connor McDavid hooking against Aleksander Barkov
3rd 06:15 EDM MIN 2 Derek Ryan high-sticking against Nick Cousins
3rd 11:30 FLA MIN 2 Kevin Stenlund interference against Leon Draisaitl
3rd 19:51 FLA MIN 2 Ryan Lomberg minor

Officials:

  • Referees: Chris Rooney, Jean Hebert
  • Linesmen: Ryan Daisy, Devin Berg

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