r/TwoHotTakes 29d ago

Is it Really a Big Deal..? || Two Hot Takes Podcast || Reddit Reactions Episode discussion 🎤

https://youtu.be/7ugebM947q8?si=WaJ4uoqg5cg4bVnN

Two Hot Takes host, Morgan, is joined by guest co-hosts Lauren and Justin!

This week's episode is all about determining if certain scenarios are a big deal or not. Putting family in a middle row at your wedding, using your shirt as your sauce tray, and getting waxed by your parents.. we really question it all. Can't wait to hear your thoughts and check out YouTube for some polls! -Morgan

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u/happybunnyntx 28d ago

Morgan explains in this week's intro regarding the situation in Gaza:

"As many of you guys know I am Jewish, but that doesn't take away my common sense or my human decency and it's pretty pretty pretty pretty freaking clear that what's going on right now is not ok. In the description of this episode you'll find a link for a medical fund to support victims in Gaza and I'm just thinking about everyone all around the world. It feels heavy, and I hope everyone out there is doing ok, or the best they can. Thank you guys so much and enjoy the episode. "
-Morgan

The links included in this week's description will be listed below for those interested:

Medical Aid in Gaza!
https://www.map.org.uk/
https://www.gofundme.com/f/CareForGaza

Stories from the subreddit that were featured:

Story 1: Entitled sister is upset I strategically seated her at my wedding to avoid capturing her breastfeeding moments on camera

Story 3: AITA for secretly eating takeout food my pregnant wife cannot eat because she has gestational diabetes?

Story 5: Is it weird to have your parents wax your nether regions??

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u/Alarmed-Albatross768 28d ago

Justin was a huge red flag in this episode

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u/WiseBear998 28d ago

I was really surprised, I feel like most of the time he is a green flag with his input. But this episode I just felt like almost everything he said rubbed me the wrong way. I found myself wondering if he had been drinking or something it just seemed really out of character for him. Morgan is defending him in IG comments so idk maybe he was trying to do like a dry humor thing?? Just felt very weird and out of the ordinary for him.

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u/Alarmed-Albatross768 28d ago

She deserves better. He was an arrogant ass and I’ve never liked him. Morgan needs to follow her own advice and RUN. I’ve felt like she always lowered her morals to accommodate him. Especially when it comes to porn, other women, marital roles and all around relationship expectations

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u/Distinct_Depth1690 25d ago

This comment reeks of parasocial relationships. As viewers/listeners we do not actually know Morgan or Justin and have no real standing to comment on their relationship.

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u/Alarmed-Albatross768 25d ago

Do you even listen to the podcast? That’s the whole podcast.

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u/Sensitive_Baby9396 26d ago

Couldn’t have said it better myself

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u/Alarmed-Albatross768 28d ago

She’s FIGHTING for her life in the comments. Llol

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u/_squeee 28d ago

He's negative and whining on every episode, I wonder if Lauren actually likes to be on with him..

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u/Moose_Adorable 28d ago

From the first couple minutes I was already put off. Watching porn is normal and im sure Morgan agrees, but the WAY he was saying it and not getting the hint to move on. Then the wedding conversation…. Are you excited or not?

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u/TSuites 28d ago

The gestational diabetes meltdown story was difficult to determine if the OP was TA or not. It is giving the vibes that he is trying hard to come across as a victim, and his entire post came across as condescending to her. This is one I'd absolutely love to hear her side on. Obviously her trying to control what food he eats when he's not around her is not healthy, but it really makes me wonder what led up to her reaction. I really wouldn't be surprised if it turned out that he critiques her on everything she eats or something along those lines, it just really feels like something is missing from his side of the situation.

When I was pregnant food was one thing I definitely cried about, it was ridiculous and embarrassing. Those pregnancy hormones can be wild! The only way I can describe it is equivalent to being that emotional drunk where you can easily flip from being happy to crying your heart out over something that would never usually phase you - but usually when people are that drunk they are with others who are too, and there's a good chance everyone will forget about it or just chalk it up as some silliness.... In contrast, having hormones hijack your impulse control while pregnant is so isolating because you are held to a higher standard, with no chance of your spouse being able to relate. Not even all pregnant people can understand, because it doesn't impact everyone the same.

It is irritating that he is complaining about not being able to do things he wants just because of her condition. Buddy, it's two months until the finish line and you're really going to toss the subject of divorce around because you can't eat pasta whenever you feel like it?! It's hard for him, yet he doesn't have a baby growing in him that is making the cravings unbearable. The more I think about his post, the more it is giving manipulative vibes... He's acting like he's trying to be respectful by compromising eating certain things around her, yet he is so full of resentment. He knows this is weighing heavy on her, but instead of having a supportive partner that is toughing out two months of eating healthier, he takes any opportunity to eat whatever he wants to.

One last thing to add... Pregnancy hormones are so much harder to control when you're in an unhealthy relationship. Looking back on it, the things I would cry or get worked up a out were not actually the issue I was upset about. Example: pregnant me crying about my ex eating leftovers wasn't really about the food (though at the time and shortly after I did think so)... It was more about the disregard for me, the fact that he knew I was looking forward to it and he wasn't, he just wanted something easy to eat. When you feel unappreciated it is so easy to get upset about things that don't actually matter, and if in a healthy relationship that sort of thing would likely not even get that sort of reaction.

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u/Ok-Contest4585 25d ago

I wish I could like this more because this is exactly what I was thinking the whole time they were talking about the story. 

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u/k-luna 28d ago

In THIS economy? IF my mom was a professional esthetician who waxed people for a living? I would absolutely go to her every month. That's the person I'm most comfortable with in the WORLD.

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u/oohyeahgetitiguess 24d ago

No literally? Like I’m sorry yall aren’t close to your mom like that but I can’t think of anyone I’d trust more than my mom🤷🏻‍♀️

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u/Tat_love14 27d ago

Comment for the Breastfeeding story: I really think OP is the asshole for how she wrote the story. She seems annoyed that her sister breastfeeds at family events or anytime in public. Breastfeeding is normal. It is not okay to shane someone for how they feed their baby in public. understand not wanting Breastfeeding pictures, but the extra comments were awful. As someone who has breastfed, covering up is not comfortable for the baby or the person feeding. OP should have just mentioned to her sister that she didn't want those pictures. This way the she wasn't blindsided.

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u/Cindy-Lennox 26d ago

She says in the beginning of the story that she doesn't even like her sister.
From the way she describes it, I would say they have conflicting morals/views and she can't stand that her sister isn't just like her. (I can understand not wanting your sisters breast to be photographed, but to completely push her aside and even want to tip the photographer for telling her to leave the shot without even communicating with your sister AT ALL? AH behavior)

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u/hellolleh32 16d ago

This one really annoyed me. I just made another comment on it. I’m breastfeeding and so much of what was said and that OP wrote was just wrong.

By baby won’t take a bottle or nurse with a cover. You can’t make your baby eat when they don’t want to. So if baby is nursing it’s because they need to. There’s so much more to say on it but OP just sounds bitter and hateful.

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u/xx-jazzilla 16d ago

Literally came here specifically because of this story. My daughter would NOT bottle feed. She would refuse and scream no matter what if we tried bottles. Warm breastmilk, cold breastmilk, formula, anything not from me she refused. Her dad never got to feed her until she could eat solids. She also NEVER left the "newborn" phase of breastfeeding. She breastfed every 2-3 hours until we weened off entirely, even around solid foods. It was really freaking hard and I was so exhausted and confused and felt lost by the 5 month mark. I felt so bad for OPs sister for how the situation was explained in the story and also by how almost ignorant they were in giving their opinions. None of them know by experience but they also didn't learn. They've deep dived often so why they didn't here, I don't understand.

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u/ahchava 28d ago

Kinkster here: Exhibitionism is sexual gratification from things like flashing or wanting an audience for sex. Vouyerism is when you like to watch exhibitionists or you like to watch people having sex or being naked ect and get gratification from watching. In the kink community, a nursing mom would not be considered an exhibitionist. Because it’s not about sexual gratification or wanting people to look at you. Ethical kinksters aka most people who have identified this kink set up a legal and consensual way to either watch or be seen. Some people just have different levels of modesty and give a fuck. I think the ex husband leaving over this was very much the asshole as this is very much not exhibitionism. He was even MORE the asshole for outting this persons kinks to her family (even though I’m pretty sure the person in question is not actually an exhibitionist let’s just say that she did ask him to have public sex with her or something)you should never out someone and talking to FAMILY about how someone gets off is very much a no no. Family and kink do. Not. Mix. (For context, the kink community and the queer community are inextricably intertwined historically so this would be seen as the same as being outed as gay to a bigoted family for example except kink isn’t a protected class so she could loose her job or housing for this rumor true or not) This whole thing WREAKS of purity culture for me. I think on top of that, this bride just doesn’t like her sister and did honestly treat her pretty shitty if even cousins were seated with family at the front.

Gestational diabetes-I think he should be allowed to eat what he wants outside of the home. But for fucks sake, eat your meals together.

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u/Ok-Contest4585 25d ago

So I tried to keep an open mind throughout the episode on everybody's comments and opinions but this whole episode was just one of those that rubbed me the wrong way. I feel like there was just a lot there was missing with these and I know that it's also on the reddit stories themselves. However I feel like this episode was not it for me. Example, the mustard story, I get it's gross and on your shirt. But spilling the mustard was clearly an accident and dipping it and not wasting it was done out of embarrassment. People do crazy things all the time so I feel like if I saw someone dipping mustard off their shirt because they spilt it on themselves I don't think I would think they're gross. I'd think oh that's funny and move on with my day because it's not my business. Even if I'm in the situation, I'd still try to find something to make it funny and better. Making stuff like that worse for no reason just doesn't make sense to me. There's more with the other stories, but overall it felt like a sense of lack of general empathy for the other side, when there usually is. I.E wanting to hear more from both perspectives even though you don't get to, but keeping it open for a different possibility than what you have in front of you. They're all human and we're not perfect, this one just wasn't it for me. 

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u/xx-jazzilla 16d ago

I'm actively listening and kinda uncomfortable with how they're handling th3 stories, their personal opinion etc. I feel like part of the reason I enjoy it is how often they try to read comments and see other persons side, and this time they missed the mark so much.

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u/Cool-Concentrate8739 29d ago

I have a comment on the gestational diabetes story. I’ve had gestational diabetes 3 times (every single pregnancy) and it sucks. I’ve had meds with two pregnancies and 1 controlled with diet. I have cried and maybe gotten mad at my husband for eatings things I can’t BUT I still don’t think this man is an asshole… even if you have gestational you can still take a very tiny taste of something if you are really craving it. And then just take a super long walk after. Also whenever I would get super upset about a meal (like Portillos chocolate cake) I would just tell my husband okay! The minute I give birth bring me cake to the delivery room ! Or ice cream or whatever, cause as soon as the placenta is out you normally don’t have gestational anymore. (I was “lucky” and it stayed as pre diabetes on my last baby :( working towards getting over that. But anyway the comment he made about oh that’s your medical issue not mine. I’ve learned that the placenta is the one that can’t control the sugar… but the placenta comes from the father’s genes…. So technically it is his fault 🤣 but seriously my husband was so amazing during my pregnancies and was very understanding about all the stuff I had to go through and was super supportive with all the gestational diabetes stuff since it’s A LOT you gotta do, multiple appointments from not just gyno but dietician, endocrinologist, multiple non stress tests and more ultrasounds than a normal pregnancy. In the end, I do think they are both the assholes, idk why she’s patrolling HIS food so much. 😬 but also why is he not being a more supportive partner.

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u/Carpefelem 27d ago

I agree that they were both in the wrong. She was definitely being very extra, but WOW I got a terrible vibe from the guy. I was glad when Lauren pushed back a tad on her fiance and friend. Like were they really thinking that he had done "more than enough" for giving up door-dashing on the couch when he still has his own personal snack fridge and can eat out? And "hates" his wife? Yikes. What kind of picture does this paint of a collaborative relationship? How are they going to handle any part of parenting together?

Glad your own situation was much more supportive!

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u/Cool-Concentrate8739 29d ago

Also you can eat A LOT on gestational diabetes you just can’t eat carbs and sugars. I ate burgers without buns, healthy life bread (super low carb bread) eggs, bacon, sausage… basically any protein and a very small amount of carbs a day. In my case I could eat full fat ice cream at night to help with my fasting sugars. (Eating full fat ice cream with nuts after an evening walk helps lower your fasting sugars in the morning at least that’s what my dietician suggested and I did this every pregnancy)

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u/SarcasticFloridaGirl 28d ago

Came to comment on the diabetes story FIRST. I am curious if she was over weight BEFORE the pregnancy and just lazy. As a mom of 4, I didn't care what my husband ate when I was pregnant and to verbally abuse your SO during pregnancy is a bit unhinged. They should definitely continue with therapy, but unfortunately, I don't see this marriage lasting that long if she is like this during pregnancy. She sounds like she is going to be controlling and I would surely reconsider having MORE kids, at least with her.

SECOND story, guy sleeping with affair child. I don't think he's the asshole at all. They didn't get married and that........lady, cheated on him resulting in a child that he never knew. He could have very easily met her anywhere else. In this day and age, age is just a number and people should mind their own business. I personally think "mom" got what she deserved. and the scream I scrumpt when she said she finally got to call him daddy.....OMG.... anyway. have a great day!!

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u/Cool-Concentrate8739 25d ago

I had gestational diabetes and I was crazy thin before I had it. Has nothing to do with being overweight or not. It just depends on the placenta. One pregnancy you may have it but a different one you might not. Gestational is weird like that

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u/poops20timesaday 27d ago

Just caught the episode, guys, and I gotta say- putting family in the middle row at my wedding? Not a biggie in my book. As for the sauce tray shirt thing, it's a no from me... just messy. But seriously, waxed by parents? Would love to know who came up with that scenario! 😂 Great show as always!

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u/so_very_trans 29d ago

Hi! This is actually ab the split milk episode. I appreciate the trigger warning, but giving a time stamp to skip to is very helpful (or disclosing that the story will take up the remainder of the episode.)

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u/MaewintheLascerator 26d ago

The husband in the gestational diabetes story is giving me the vibe that he's going to throw a fit if he has to change anything about his lifestyle, and having a baby changes EVERYTHING about your lifestyle. The donuts are not the issue, the issue is that the husband is showing his wife now that he will not do the bare minimum to support her and she has to be freaking out because in a few weeks they're going to have a whole ass infant to care for and he's not going to be any help.

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u/Vast-Carpenter7862 24d ago

Also im not seeing if anybody mentioned this but most women dont even get tested/diagnosed with GD until late in the second trimester. So its not 9 months of a diet change. Its 10-15 weeks MAX. By his story I do think she completely overreacted but hes a whiny asshole who doesnt even have pregnancy hormones to blame for his shitty comments.

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u/oohyeahgetitiguess 24d ago

There’s nobody I’d trust more than my mom for a wax tbh🤷🏻‍♀️ especially at 22, like that’s college age and I honestly don’t think that’s weird at all