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Struggling to Confess My Feelings Due to Insecurities and Cultural Expectations Listener Write In



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u/EliaVee 27d ago

If the guy really likes you, then he'd be willing to engage with that aspect of your identity. Of course, it's different for everyone, and maybe your cultural practices aren't something you place a lot of value in, then it'd be a separate situation. But if YOU want him to do it, then he should. 

Likewise, your parents should be able to accurately judge the value of your partner and either give their approval or disapproval. You need to decide for yourself whether or not you're willing to market this guy as someone you like and who has your best interests at heart. 

I think you should start asking what your parents would think of a hypothetical husband who has all of your current crush's tastes. It would at least give them an idea of what to expect.

Also, you're not even in a relationship with the guy! Give him a bit of grace! And don't let your body be the reason why you don't go after him. There are tons of guys out there that like chubby women, and there are a lot of guys that are neutral too. Everyone is different.